Singson alleges that he entered Tiongson's apartment finding Tiongson having sex with Richard Catral, her current boyfriend. Singson referred to it by a criminal law term “in flagrante delicto” (meaning being caught red-handed). He admits to assaulting her and admits that his bodyguards stripped Catral and tortured him. He claims he had to intercede with his bodyguards to limit their cruelty toward Catral.
Tiongson, who was photographed with substantial evidence of violent assault, stated that she was able to escape Singson by climbing over her balcony and escaping to her neighbors house.
If we are to accept Singson's belief that Tiongson is his “common law wife,” would his brutality be acceptable? No. No human has any right or privilege to assault another human. This is true whether the person is one's child, spouse, partner, friend or otherwise.
Violence of this nature tells us two things. First, that there is no love in the relationship. It is a relationship of power and domination. Second, while the dominating and power-driven nature of the relationship is evident, this form of relating simply channels Singson's total out of control disposition. This is what we can gather simply from Singson's own admissions.
If we take a closer look at what he says, however, we find that he is in more precarious position. First, his legal wife is Evelyn Verzosa. Their marriage was not otherwise annulled or dissolved. Therefore, Singson cannot have a common law wife, as defined by Article 34 of the Family Code of the Philippines (E.O. No. 209) The law does not recognize any special relationship between them and never has.
If Singson had a good faith belief that he and Tiongson were still together simply as boyfriend-girlfriend, he ought to ask himself why it is that his partner has decided to couple and relate to another man. The only answer to that question that could possibly result in a violent and brutal assault is if the relationship was based upon fear, domination and violence.
Swiss psychiatrist Carl Jung wrote, “Where love rules, there is no will to power, and where power predominates, love is lacking.” The relationship as Singson understands it is not founded on love. And, it appears, that the relationship had ended well before Singson's actions.
This form of relating, however, continues to be a problem in our community and in our culture – worldwide. Manny Pacquiao's support of Singson is an embarrassment to himself and the boxing and sports world. A sport is an organized and competitive activity governed by a set of rules or customs requiring fair play where the physical capabilities of the competitors is the primary judge of the outcome.
I just don't see the fair play in someone and their group of body guards breaking into a private residence and assaulting two people viciously and brutally. I also know many people from Vigan and surrounding towns and I don't think anyone would agree that it's customary to do that. It certainly didn't follow any rules. It can also hardly be called competitive. Perhaps the only resemblance of Singson's terror has to sports is that the physical capabilities of the people involved was the primary determinant of the outcome – Tiongson and Catral were brutally assaulted.
Singson has also dared Malacanang to fire him under the belief that such a thing will not occur.
And this is where the moment of truth appears. What a society honors, it cultivates. If we honor the will to power, domination, brutality and violence, we cultivate a world driven by power and domination. If we honor love and responsibility toward one another, we cultivate love.
We must cultivate love.